I read this article twice and do not understand what is offensive about it. It's quite gentle--for instance the line about finding a common language and making financial arrangements. Is it anti-Semitic to note that haredim talk about finances when making matches? Or that they start to think about shidduchim when the children are very young? Some is exaggerated--like the ten dresses, and some is wrong, like the cholent and Hava nagila, but I would say it is quite mild as far as satire goes and overall the description is accurate. It didn't say that there are no wedding gifts, just that they are smaller. At secular weddings the couple do get large gifts--but this has to be reciprocated--quite a bad system that only helps wedding hall owners.

You kill me! Your tb could have come from somebody I know. He calls himself "a player," but when you scratch the surface, all that playing appears to be based much more on wishful thinking than on reality :-)

I've been to plenty of Haredi weddings (alas, not my own, yet) and you can make jokes about them, just like you can make jokes about "typical" secular Israeli or Mizrachi weddings. Oh and, Talula, babe, there is plenty of booze at a haredi wedding, it's just all on the men's side.

Are you sure all the booze is only on the men's side? I found out at a Baptist wedding that garter belts are not just for decoration. They hold a flask with vodka quite nicely. Unlike gin and that other stuff, you can't smell vodka, and if the bride seems a little too ecstatic, her husband considers it a compliment :-)

Levi Brackman did not write this article. Which makes everything else you have to say irrelevant and stupid.

Men in one place and women in the others, its much like that in the gay community to, there you are we have that in common. Actually once i scored at such a wedding !

sorry. and yes, i do acknowledge that it says unofficial guide... it would be nice if someone wrote one on the arab wedding...

If not wrong I'm sure. I agree with posters- this is a hateful article. For goodness sake don't we Jews have enough enemies without making each other one? I understand Haredi may think most seculars arent Jewish. For the most part they are probably right. But if you can't be ultra religious in Israel, then where on earth can you be?

Sex is a very important part in the life of a couple . So the partners have to know each other before the wedding , this to avoid problems later . As for the "less" divorces in the charidi world a] in Yddish : es past zich nischt . They would be rejected by everyone b ] women can't discuss their problems wityh anybody . Their mother : it's so my daughter , we can't change it . A Rabbi ? : does he bring flowers to you for Shabbat ? yes ? no reason to complain at all then . They were crying at the consultation room of a Jewish feminine i knew abroad . She told me this after i said her that the charidi women look so happy . How wrong you are , charles , they cry at my consultation . Regarding this article , what a laugh i had . It's a caricature and of course exagerates everything . Not to take seriously .

Why does the rabbi have to explain the significance of the ceremony?!hello!this is a heredi wedding! They know the significance of it. they know they are giving their lives to each other. If chilonim need to have it explained to them, its not a virtue! And why make fun of the dancing? haredi weddings are the happiest Ive been in.I was a waitress quite a few times in chiloni weddings-and thats not happiness. thats drunkedness and smoking and dancing with lust and not happiness.

However, you are absolutely correct. A good sex life is the most important thing in keeping a relationship together. Therefore, it's imperative for people to sleep around. Remember: No-one wants a loser in bed.

iT is a sad article as many of the points are true.... He is obviously not talking about modern orthodox .. but ultra charedi chassidim I went to a wedding in Bnei berak... and arrived too late for the chuppah... As i entered the hall, ( the mens side of course) i encountered the usual black and white scene. I asked where the groom was... and was told that he is eating in the room upstairs with his bride and will only come down at the end of the meal... that was very odd indeed. And yes... articles like this do lift the lid on a sect that is stuck in the cavemen period.... so not everybody welcomes a peep into this private party... especially not the male chassidim who want to protect their dominance over the females... who must continue to shave their glorious head and walk around in housecoats and slippers all day..

They will go crazy !

Check out Ynet article: 'Girls our age have sex' to see how relationships progress(?) in the Hiloni world.