How could we, cheaters, trust each other?

Mutual trust is one of the biggest issues in a relationship between two cheaters. How can you trust your unlawful lover when you know that he cheats on his wife with you? 

After all, we all know that temptations are endless; all you need to do is grasp. So how you can be sure that apart from cheating with you, he's not cheating on you? And if he is, do you have the right to claim loyalty when you're a cheater just like he is? 

Complicated? Indeed. If you're not part of this scene, you probably can't understand the dilemma. You'll probably claim that if the asshole is cheating on his wife – his children's mother – the woman he swore to love and cherish – then yeah, sure, he'll cheat on you as well. The truth must be said here, it's an utterly legitimate claim, but if you're part of this scene you must know that it's not all black and white. 

The easiest way to avoid this situation is not to mix emotions. Make it clear that you two are fully aware that it's nothing but sex, with maybe an addition of some laughs, compliments and an occasional cuddling. In that case, he can do whatever he wants. All you care about is that he wears the rubber. 

sex, drugs and Rock n' Roll

You're probably not a saint yourself. You're probably fishing for other lads just as much. 

That's the optimal situation: You're having fun together, you're having fun alone and if you're friends enough, you'll also laugh about it during the traditional after-sex cigarette. 

But unfortunately, we're all human beings; we do have feeling and sentiments, combined with qualities such as jealousy and possessiveness. Women, as women, not only cannot separate sex and emotions, they are usually not aware of the difference. And since we’re not nature's stable creatures, even if we're getting into this out of full awareness and free choice, it never ends with emotion-free relationship, based on the great values of sex, drugs and Rock n' Roll. 

The wife doesn't count

Alas, we're being bought for the cheap price of compliments and passionate kisses. Whisper in our ears that we make you nuts, that you're submissive to us, and we'll carry away. It's in our anatomy, really. It comes naturally and we love it, even though we know that it might end with packs of Kleenex. That's why you love us so much; we make you feel like kings for a day. 

But when it all feels perfect and your eyes shine in the shape of a heart, the question rises: Does he sleep with me and me only? The wife, for that matter, doesn't count. You might accept the fact that your husband might cheat on you one day, but your lover? No way. 

If you meet the guy online, the dilemma is even worse. After all, you know that he's still chatting there. You know that because you're still there as well. Of course, you can ask him, but what does it matter if he'll answer "no?" Come on, that's what he says to his wife. 

'Only you?'

The sophisticated among us knows how to play it cool; act like it is all fine. In that case, they're more than just a lover. He will tell them about his conquests, his other women. They might get nothing out of it, but at least there's an accurate answer to the teasing question. 

It's funny, you know. After all, one of the reasons for getting married is to stop thinking about cheaters and sleep well at nights. Yes, the answer to this question will never be honest, but nevertheless, you'll want to hear the words "only you" coming out of his mouth. 

At the end of the day I'll get into bed with my lawful husband, for better or for worse, in sickness or in health. But with the lover's answer packed in the secret chamber of my heart, I'll sleep much better.