You can make 1000 lists but the bottom line is that you are wrong. You are hurting someone who loves you truly and honeslty. You are betraying not only your wife but your children. You are teaching your son it's ok to cheat and your daughter its ok to be cheated on. You are spitting in God's face, after having promissed yourself to one person for ever under a hupah. But the worst of all this is that you are lying to yourself. Your wife will hate you and get over it. Your kids will grow up and resent you. Your lover will get tired of you and find another. But you, you will have to look at yourself everyday in the mirror. You will have to live with you - until the end if your life. And maybe you feel big and strong and macho now, but growing old and dying alone (which will happen to you if you dont change) is the worst punshment of all. Good luck with that!

The author is wrong on the first "why not" point. According to Judaism, if a man has an affair with an unmarried woman, it's not adultery - it's "only" an affair.

Period. And even if someone wrote it, it never should have been published. You guys are sinking to new lows.

People, ease up. Its been fun reading it. We make choices in life, thats why we are called Homo Sapiens. Some are right, some are wrong, this is part of life. Take responsibility and as one wise man said - "its not if you can get away with it, its if you can live with it".

I agree with Yishai (5). To 4, the reason it's not adultery is because it's marriage. Sex is one of the means of making a woman your wife. So saying it's "only an affair" is not true.

First line: "Following my first (illegal) time, I stayed in bed and filled my pillow with tears." LOL. That is hillarious. Can you picture him crying?

I rebuke this author for his obviously cavalier attitude toward the institute of marriage. May he be woken up by a life altering event so he can rid himself of the evil inclination which has so much control. His intellect is clouded by the temptation of physical pleasure... Shame on him, Shame on him!

Why not leave your wife and then do what you like, openly & honestly. Cheating is not only wrong but very painful eventually, and you, your wife AND the kids will suffer big time. Don't punish the innocents for your sexuall pleasures.

....this is just one on a very very long list. We are not robots, we are human beings. We ALL slip up from time to time, and sometimes we even think up amazing ways to justify our actions to ourselves based on a warped rational thought process we go through because we want to avoid responsibility for our actions Yes people do make mistakes. We ALL do. some are worse than others. We are ALL responsible for our actions (no exeptions allowed) We make choices, we have to live with them. Kacha. Ze Hayim. The point is this: we need to be far less self centred than we are, try think of other people too because what we say and do and think does affect them, and try make the right choices most of the time.

BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO BREAK THE WOMAN I MARRIED HART.........DONT FORGET ALL THE PAIN YOU COULD CAUSE FOR YOUR PLEASURE.......................SPICE THINGS UP GO TO THERAPY ROMANCE HER ...........AND IF THAT DOSNT WORK GET A DIVORCE CHEATING STINKS

As long as it is between adults and with condom- everything goes... Wake up it is 21 century!

Can the author of this article or an editor from Yediot please contact me to help me explain some of the racier contents of this article to my 10 year-old who I found reading it. Honestly, are there no boundaries left for public content in publications that children are encouraged by their teachers to read? I wonder if besides hiding behind the pen-name, the author also explains about what he can do in his lover's mouth, to his 10 year-old kid. How and when did this become acceptable? Because advertisers need more eyeballs on the page?

For all your days are consumed in Hashem's anger - your years dissapate like an unspoken word. If you are living the life - don't be suprised if you wake up one day and wonder where your years went. A lost life is the greatest punishment Hashem can dole out!

I guess you have them in Isarel, those little 3M Post it note pads that you stick on things. Funny thing about them, is that when you stick them on something they stick just fine, but every time you remove them fron something and adhere them to another they are less sticky and eventually don't stick at all. Think about it. Would you like to lose the ability to be adhere? - to truely love someone?

Con---She slaps you and tells you to divorce your wife before you can get any.

Because you are concerned more with your own selfish pleasure than with anything else. This is how societies break down and collapse- when this is your highest value. We don't want that to happen here. The nation of Israel has survived ALL of our enemies- for THOUSANDS of years, because we have not, and will not, accept your warped position.

This article is going to make me stop reading Ynet News

You guys are destroying the good in yourselfs. The religious family is a core reason why we are the only civilization with a "made in 1000BC" tag on them.You guys are destroying the good in yourselves. The religious family is a core reason why we are the only civilization with a "made in 1000BC" tag on them. Show some respect, Disgusted, South Africa Show some respect, Discusted, South Africa

Leviticus 20:10 - And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. Honestly, who here could imagine this textual pornography published in Al-Ahram or As-Sharq Al-Awsat???

the ten commandments prohibits adultery. if you wish to live a life defying the lord of israel, you are not a true jew. you are nothing.

Bored, married a long time, hubby cals to tell me I loaded the dishwasher incorrectly, again, and he had to reload it. Am I now to fell sexy and romantic with him? When I do, he rolls over an falls asleep, snoring. Yes, he has been there, but there had to more to life than this, even with history. SO, do I try the grass on the greener side to see if it is worth fixing, or stay in this rut until I die, because we made a vow?

this has nothing to do with god. con - your soul will wither in deception of yourself and those around you. cumming into somebodys mouth can't make up for the look on your daughters face and the stab in her heart when she finds out.

Jews are supposed to follow the Bible. Repent before it's too late.

funny article, puts accurate slant on both sides of argument. i should know, i've just come out of an affair with a married man.

I used to go after women, and thought it fun playing around and pleasing them, but then i met hannah, true love makes you guilty looking at other women sometimes.

One cooking and cleaning, one doing two surgeries a day to make the payments on my mansion and another just waiting around for when I want a cold diet Coke opened without breaking my fingernails.

You make me sick. It was a man like you who took not only my heart but my self worth, and any positive thoughts and optimism about love I ever had. Because of assholes like u, self serving sorry ass pieces of pig shit, that I will remain single and loveless for ever. Hope you are proud! PIG PIG PIG