"Lo lehol beyzta rekuva ad hasof" literally means "Don't finish eating a rotten egg." Some people keep pouring in money into a bad stock hoping it will turn around. Sounds like Karin is advocating a similar strategy in relationships. Sometimes it is just better to cut your loses. If you see that you have severe relationship issues after a few weeks, don't waste your time and money on a counselor - just get out of the relationship.

Some relationships have children and assets involved and are not so easy to break up. I think Karin is simply noting that it's dangerous to try and change others, and useless to hope that you can. But here's news - it's not enough to fix our "issues". In the long run, we either will or won't, and we'll be better for it or not, but THE most important thing is that there needs to be 5 times as many positive experiences in a relationship than negative (read that somewhere - seems about right). If this is so, and it's not just about screwing like bunnies, then the complaints don't matter so much and the kinds of observations Karin mentions won't be so quickly dismissed, and the relationship will continue pleasantly even as our partners grow into their own skins. It all takes time - in a good relationship, time makes improves it.

You made some good points, including the 5:1 ratio. On the other hand, the article deals with going into therapy after a few weeks of dating! Do you know many guys or girls who want to start a relationship on the therapist's couch? (Haha..well maybe if the therapist left early...)

People don't normally have kids within the first few weeks of a relationship!!! It's absurd for couples to go into therapy during their first few months together. It's clearly not going to work, move on and get over it. Couples who have been married for years go into therapy, not couples who have just met. Stupid article

buying a really beautiful dress which dosent fit , but too good to pass up even though you know its not right, and then trying to squeez your big butt into it. if it dosent get in you go on a diet, to the gym, in some cases to the doc for larger boobs, much simpler and cheeper just to stick to a dress in your right size or a man as the case may-be

reality is that most people should be in therapy before they enter relationships b/c they have issues that they are unaware of and will invariably come out in the course of intimacy. the better they understand themselves going in, the less problems they will have working through the relationship.

not from fear of abandonment nor the hummus I ate for lunch, but rather that story. Karin, you really need to find a quality guy, then you won't have to ask yourself if you're in love... you'll already know! Couples Therapy??? yeah, it's called REALLY GREAT SEX!