Oh darling you have no skills. I never believed people fell in love at one time, thought it was all a fairy tale. Until, yes until I fell in love. It does happen ,but before it does you must set the perimeters of the type of man you want. young women today do not have these skills because hollywood dregs up a sexual dumbo as a male desired image,Many women who have a religious upbringing set the standards within their fields.But then when God brings you together, it is unmistakable and if you want to weather the storms of life you better not settle for anything less.

A lucky man at that!

Why does the author only dwell on one extreme or another? Men don't come in black and white any more than women do. Is she suggesting that women see men only in that way? Pre-packaged "perfection" should certainly be avoided, as should anyone stuck in a rut and incapable/unwilling of any form of self improvement or sacrifice. I feel the keys to a successful relationship are 2 people with a sense of compromise and a realistic understanding of each other's needs and wants. If gallantry and dramatic romanticism is what you seek, you probably won't find lasting happiness. Better to do a self-inventory of why this is a necessity than to stubbornly wait on a mirage to sweep you off your feet. Life is not a Julia Roberts movie.

You will analyze yourself out of ever relationship you start. Shut-up and go with the flow. Signed, Get it together!

Yes, i am in love wiht you Karin, i want o marry you and have 4 kids with u, what do u say?

Karin, surely you deserve more than this - I really mean that. But here's a tip. I don't suppose this is only true with guys, but people really need to feel needed when they enter a relationship. Are you allowing yourself to be so self-sufficient and independant in an attempt to shield yourself from pain that you are projecting to men that they are not needed by you? If so, try to open up a place within yourself emotionally that lets men in. Otherwise, they'll start feeling like pieces of furniture in your life, like accessories, and they'll "rethink" their connection to you.

so they tell you what you want to hear. Trust none of them.

Though not one to usually use cliches, I heard one recently that fits this issue... Men use love to get sex Women use sex to get love If you disagree... don't shoot, I'm just the messenger, not the author

The Difference Between Loss & Divorce When someone has lost a mate,whether their was great love or not there is generally a sense of guilt that you could have done more and should have. Part of this feeling is that is the sense that your mate was a far better person than they really were. That is where the guilt comes in. You are sorry you did not care more or were more loving. When someone is divorced there are entirely different feeling. If you are very lucky the split was a gradual drifting apart and the love that you had is gone, but the respect you had is still there. On the other hand if there are serious reasons for the breakup be they a lack of respect or marital infidelity. The loss of confidence in another when your whole life is tied to the other is probably the most devastating kind of betrayal. Because of this, the sense of trust in people of the opposite sex carries over into other encounters, making it difficult to be open to a relaxed and giving relationship. A person in this situation tends to be on guard for, and looking for that betrayal to occur again, makes for a difficult healing process and a fear that it will occur again. To have a trusting relationship is the most beautiful thing people can have, because it encompasses all that a person can wish for. When this is destroyed it is devastating and a broken heart in some cases may never heal. I REFER TO THIS RESPONSE AS HAVING ONE’S SHIELDS UP.