where do i sign up for this way of life, tehran?

This is news? These guidelines have been out for at least 20 years (although the prices have been updated a bit.

I don't understand why they need this in the first place. If you don't have th money for something don't buy t if you do have the money then get it. If there is no money then don't get a watch, necklace, earnings or any of the other things. Several years ago someone came to my house collecting for marrying off his daughter and he listed some of these gifts as part of the expenses. This is just wrong on every level. It used to drive me crazy when people who are paying for groceries with wic also have $1500 sheteils while wearing $5000 in jewelery.

Considering my attitude of "To hell with this BS! NEEEEEEEEEXT," it's in everyone's interest to keep the groom and just send the money. OK, I'll settle for half the amount. Trust me! Based on my track record, the guy and his entire family would be forever thankful and consider the amount a bargain :-) Oh, I own a house already....

It's a good idea for everybody to cut down on wedding costs. It's much better to put the money toward housing purchase, furniture, etc. The problem is expectations based on customs, especially in the religious sector, but it's not limited to them. I know that in some circles it's a must to overspend just to show that you can, implying wealth. Getting in deep debt is not a good way to start a marriage.

'me gits zech an eitza'. Too many people think they have to impress someone with elaborate celebrations and expensive parties. Thank God the orthodox are getting married, having Jewish children and populating the country. In general the secular are too busy buying into all kinds of nonsense, trying to find their palce in the sun. As for the secular, they are becoming yesterdays news and they dont even know it. The train is pssing them. Without kids they will melt away. Lapid and his gang is the last breath of a dying entity.

got married at home on Friday Shabbat evening.Family and friends came with the food and took care of a joyful atmosphere with singing and dancing. After the war my father Z"L,having been educated not to spend more than he has, moved from one appartement to another all by himself to avoid borrowing money. A business relation from before the war saw him in the street shlepping a full cart ,and gave him a job in his business till my father Z"L was able to open his own.I am very proud of that.

IF ONLY they would try working and earning a living, maybe save some for the GRAND WEDDINGs...no problem, when there's a CASH FLOW... not a beggary, welfare club...

life is grand in Poland, Israel

Some of the spending on lavish weddings is simply absurd especially when its to keep up appearances Rabbis have to speak up and warn the communities of the absurdity of families going into debt just to finance a wedding they cant afford. They ought to in this day and age encourage shared contrributions of the costs rather than the ridiculous notion that the girls family are commited to shoulder the entire burden Why should families blessed with lots of girls find themselves in this intolerable situation? And why when Rabbis see this happening year after year not say anything about it? Is this TRADITION?

If people judge my worth on how much I spend on my kids' weddings, their opinion is not of any worth to me. If that's what a wedding costs, I'd rather buy the kids a car and let them get married in the living room with 10 witnesses. A wedding lasts a few hours, while a car can be enjoyed every day for years to come.

What is the average cost for a photographer?
thanks