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Chelsea Clinton's bridegroom
Aliza Lavi
Published: 01.01.10, 13:05
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91. problem of mixed marriages
cynthia barmor ,   modiin, israel   (01.03.10)
well said! an article like this should be in the editor's opinion column. Jewish parents who allow mixed marriage without conversion are party to the loss to the Jewish nation.
92. 88 Connie: That is good news. Welcome article. Hope
Rivkah   (01.03.10)
MK Leiberman is able to get the bill passed to allow Christians work in Israel with less difficultiy in getting visas.
93. Hillary's family
RW   (01.03.10)
Hillary's grandmother's second husband was Jewish. In other words, Hillary's step-grandfather was Jewish. She herself has no Jewish roots.
94. Demography
YT ,   Israel   (01.03.10)
Israel is the only country in the world which has a growing Jewish population. In all other countries, more elderly Jews are dying than Jewish babies being born. In the Galut, only the Orthodox will have Jewish descendants.
95. 43...no is saying "not allow" as thosugh it is criminal
Truth   (01.03.10)
what is being said is the truth: mixed marriage is a death sentence to am Israel. To pretend otherwise is a lie.
96. assimilated marriage
chaim ,   pt israel   (01.03.10)
actually it is only temporary when they give up their judaism and marry out. it also isn't the rabbi's jewish laws that will make their children and grandchildren not jewish. won't they realise that the final decision are the NUREMBURG LAWS that decide they and their offspring will be Jewish whatever they say or want to believe. they may want to give up their people and religion - but the choice isn't and never will be their's. in the 2000 years of the diaspara no jews ever more assimilated than the german jews a hundred years ago until the NUREMBURG LAWS told them they were jews. so don't worry rabbis,etc they will in the end all come back to the fold irrevelevant to whether they want to or not.
97. Pleading with our children not to marry non-Jews ...
David ,   Jerusalem,Israel   (01.03.10)
Do we REALLY think that pleading with our children not to marry non-Jews will succeed?! Loyalty to the Jewish people over "love"? Sorry, folks, but if the Jew who wants to marry decides he/she is "in love" , in the era of 2010, pleading is a lost cause. How can a parent come and claim there is a "cultural" reason not to marry this person. It sounds bigoted. The only response to the phenomenon lies in solid education YEARS before your child comes and says "but I love him/her". Judasim is NOT just a nation. It is a nation which has entered into a covenant with G-d. G-d created the Jewish people for certain reasons and has "expectations". We have a unique role to play in "bringing" G-d awareness into the world. Try what we may want, without believing in and educating our children with that essential truth, our child will look at us dumbfounded when we , illogically, claim " foul". Only awareness of our child's special connection with G-d, as a Jew, will , G-d willing, inspire our child to marry Jewish .
98. Mixed Marriages
PS ,   Australia   (01.03.10)
You cannot force your children to marry someone Jewish. There are many who stay 'within' the faith, yet their children grow up knowing nothing about Judaism other than (in the Diaspora) they get more days holiday from school and maybe they are forced by their parents to attend synagogue once a year on Yom Kippur, but have no idea what the day is about. In any event, the grandchildren may be Jewish by birth but know nothing about Judaism and have never practiced it in their lives. I think in figuring out how to combat the rising number of mixed marriages, we need to ask how many of those who married out felt that they had a strong connection to the Jewish religion and Jewish traditions before they met their partner. I think we'll find that the high number of those who married out felt that they did not have that strong connection.
99. Prevention
Jew   (01.03.10)
The only prevention to intermarriage is a good Jewish education and living a Torah lifestyle.
100. Pleading to children when they are adults? Where were you
leo ,   usa   (01.03.10)
all 20+ years before that? Most of the time it is parents fault first of all.
101. Who should be jew.
Shaul Hacohen ,   Israel   (01.04.10)
The Rabinic laws did safeguards Jews for ages but many of it laws are debatable. We could have been saved also if the laws were not exactly the way they are. In our old history not always son on male Jews from non Jew woman were not accepted. In fact the law giving the right to be Jewish because of the mother is not biblical and probably came out the often rapes that happen to Jewish woman. This is in my view and unfair laws and if we follow the Tora, illegitimate. I believe that any person that genuinely proof that he or she want to join our Nation he should be welcome in particular a child of a (male) Jew. It is in fact a discrimination to allow a son of a female Jewish hater to be Jew when a son or a Zionist father to be denied that right. This should not be imposed by a bunch of fanatic with ugly dark (un-Jewish) cloth. The way things are going will leave us in 30 years in a country were these black dressed fanatic will be the parasitic majority and all the patriots will be goims. Jews made laws in the Middle Ages why not now? Are we less capable?
102. Intermarriage
JJ ,   NYC   (01.04.10)
Jews who marry out are 99.99% not religious. If they really cared, they would only marry other Jews.
103. aryehmoshen@yahoo.com
An Author in Search ,   Aryeh Moshen   (01.04.10)
How does an article start out so very good and end up as a wet noodle? A problem is identified. Statistics are summed. But then, instead of addressing the real issue, the author addresses a symptom. The issue is that Jews, at least Jews outside of Orthodox areas, lack a serious Jewish identity. This is a problem that affects almost all Jewish communties. The answer is simple. Stop trying to hide symptoms. Treat the illness. Provide quality Jewish and Zionist education for all Jews.
104. Chabad to the rescue
Norman   (01.04.10)
In every corner of the globe you have Chabad. Encourage your children to spend a Shabbat with their Local Chabad House.
105. #82 Charles. This suggestion would strengthen Jewish people.
Chaim ,   Israel   (01.04.10)
Charles, when you call me a "fanatic", I assume you're referring to my suggestion that parents cut intermarried children out of their will and instead give their inheritance to charites strengthening Jews and Israel. However, you can't deny this suggestion would strengthen both the Jewish people and Israel. It is necessary to do both things for a secure Jewish future. This suggestion both discourages intermarriage and strengthens charities which serve Jews and Israel. Sensible. Not fanatical.
106. #101 - It's too late
Pat Gunn ,   Pittsburgh   (01.05.10)
The age of nations, as you think of them, is over. Thinking of them and trying to keep them separate was a simplistic and ugly lie to begin with, and now it's impossible. Those who think they can stand apart will be washed up on the shores of history - eventually the whole world will be a little bit jewish, a little bit chinese, a little bit germanic, a little bit slavic, and a little bit of everything else. The old identities are dissolving, and we will build something better than the old nations (to whatever extent they were real and distinct) ever were.
107. Pat Gunn, excellent forward thinking post...
BBSNews ,   Charlotte, NC   (01.05.10)
...it is probably one of the most profound I have ever come across and I've been researching these comments for some years now.
108. 105 , those parents will loose
Charles ,   Petach Tikva   (01.05.10)
Do you think that you can hold your children with money ? Out of your wills ? And this will prevent intermarriage you think ? Your children will say : i did'nt choose you , i choose my love . You don't agree ? goodbye . My suggestion is much better and at least HUMANE , give your children a full time Jewish , not necesarrely religious , education . This works , holds your family , give JOY and happiness to everyone .
109. to Patt
Charles ,   Petach Tikva   (01.05.10)
but before this , all those racists a la BBS and others have to disappear .
110. #109 - racism will wither on the vine
Pat Gunn ,   Pittsburgh   (01.06.10)
It will be very hard to be racist when one has family and is raised with people who arn't easily classified in terms of race. If there are blacks in your family, and you grew up with them in your school, then they can't easily be "the dangerous other". I'm not saying you're wrong, but rather the very process of the end of races is also the end of racism.
111. Pat , Day dreams .....
Charles ,   Petach Tikva   (01.07.10)
Before the first Black or Jew in a Christian right wing family will be accepted , much , very much water will stream in the Mississipi ........... , . be realistic , not a dreamer .
112. Friends of Israel
Ari ,   Germany Frankfurt   (03.05.10)
To be a friend of Israel, means not to support some fanatics in Judea and Samaria...If we start to talk like this, then we are really exactly this kind of sick and chutzpe people, which we are called...
113. Reply to #5 Me Ken Brechen
Mike ,   Portand   (03.08.10)
Note to Ynet and #5. Yiddish does not make you invisible to the world wide net. As far as I can parse your words, your pseudonym means, "I could vomit". You speak of gentile women as abominations (shiksas) oozing pig lard. As a Jew I used to wonder why there was so much anti-semitism in the world. Letters like yours provide a partial answer. I am a proud intermarried Jew, with a Gentile wife who actually has taken the trouble to learn some yiddish words so she could connect better with my mother. I would say you are a poor reflection on the Jewish people, but the truth is that you are a poor reflection on yourself. Your bigoted "stick-to-your-own-kind" of people has been defeated. U.S. Jews root for Romeo & Juliet, not their parents. President Obama is living proof of racial and ethnic segregationists defeat! I wish Chelsea and her husband a hearty Mazel Tov and happiness in whatever life path gives them personal fulfillment and happiness!
114. Children of Interfaith Marriages
Christina ,   Sydney Australia   (07.05.10)
It wouldn't be such a problem if you accepted the children of Jewish fathers as Jews, instead of alienating the whole family. After all the children of interfaith marriages where not spared from the gas chambers.
115. Chelsea & Marc mixed marriage
Sherine Levine ,   Brooklyn USA   (07.29.10)
At last, a voice of reason! Thank you Aliza for bringing people to face reality! Intermarriages are killing us!
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