“It is the father’s mitzvah to actually perform the brit as Abraham did for his son, Isaac,” Sherman said. “Many fathers have told me what an incredible moment it was for them to do the actual brit and enter their sons into the covenant of Abraham.”
Sherman commenced with a naming ceremony for Jay Hilay and sister Sivan Rose, before offering Natan the option to help with the process. The couple first thought that Sherman was joking, with Natan’s wife, Linda Raab, screaming, “Are you crazy?” as Natan stepped forward to take part, friends reassuring her that the process would be easy.
“I then took a deep breath, surrendered to the faith I had in Phil and motioned that they had my blessing to proceed,” Raab said. Sherman, who has performed over 20,000 circumcisions set everything up and gave the baby some sugar water before placing a clamp and letting Zaidenweber take it from there.
Zaidenweber found it to be a strong bonding experience, saying that “I’m glad I did it. I’m glad I have that connection with my son. Your love is equal for both (twins), but it’s special that we have that bond.”
Raab also found the experience positive, with Sherman telling those gathered that a baby’s cry during a brit is like the sound of a shofar opening the gates of heaven.
"I closed my eyes, heard Jay’s cry and actually was able to experience it as deeply spiritual and beautiful,” Raab said. “He stepped up, fearlessly, with a faith in himself that I wouldn’t have had in myself. I have since been aware of how much his modeling has helped me to muster more courage as I face the tasks of mothering.”
When asked if, in the event of their having another son, Zaidenweber would again be the one making the snip, he answered: “Without hesitation."
Reprinted with permission from Shalom Life