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Faithfulness still worth it
It’s very sad to live in a world where love and marriage have been replaced by apathy and adultery
Yael Ayalon
I may be blind, or perhaps I am living in a fantasy world, but could someone please tell me: What is wrong with committing to one person, and respecting them and the vows you shared in front of family, friends and God?
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| The pros-and-cons of adultery / Optimistic Sagittarius |
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Everyone tries to find excuses for their choices in life, but there are some that do it with commendable creativity. Here is a collection of arguments “for and against” adultery. You won't find this in the Torah |
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The worst thing is that people don't even feel guilty anymore. People cheat, then rationalize their behavior to defend their cheating– and actually believe their own bullshit stories.
Nothing's perfect
Let’s face it. No marriage is perfect. Of course all men would love to have a wife that wants sex every night (or afternoon or morning), loves to swallow and would consider adding a third party to the bedroom if it would make her husband happy.
All women want a strong man, ready to take care of every little thing like her very own private superman, romantic and caring. In tune to her feelings, gentle and always ready to fight to defend her honor. I admit, these things all sound great. It just isn't real life.
What we don’t see now is what will be later. Devastation will come and lives that will be destroyed. The truth always comes out. It’s a fact of life.
When you are about to cheat, stop and think about what it will be like in 5 or 10 years from now when your wife hates you, your children think you are scum and you are alone because your lover decided to trade you in for a better, younger model.
Trying to understand
What I am struggling to understand is why would anyone would risk the happiness, lives and health of the people they love for a cheap thrill? Your partner may not be superman or Madonna is bed, but they love you. They are there to make you soup when you are sick, they are the ones you see when you look at your children’s eyes or mouth or nose.
They are the ones who stay up late at night with you and worry by your side over bills, mortgage and tuition. They are your best friend.
New excitement
Of course, it’s normal to have ups and downs in any relationship, even with your best friend. It’s normal for the excitement to wane after a few years. But instead of investing energy in the lying, sneaking around and the eventual “shit hitting the fan” that goes along with having a lover, put that energy into your marriage. Create new excitement, start a new spark.
It’s funny, we spend all of our 20s looking for love and that perfect someone to spend the rest of our lives with. We are filled with ambition, excitement and hope for the future. We take our vows, we hear the first cries of a new baby, get excited at first words and first steps, shed a tear at thoughtful gifts on birthdays and anniversaries and dream of our first home yet some are so ready, so willing, to give that all up for a cheap lay as soon as things get a little tough.
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