I have a theory, and it goes something like this. Short guys are to women what fat chicks are to dudes. Nobody claims to want to date them (though we often end up with ‘em).
I argued out this theory with a male friend recently when he asked why does it matter if a guy’s short. So I asked him, would you go out with a girl who was obese?
I figure that an obese girl is actually a better bet, she can always lose the weight, but a short guy isn’t going to grow.
Not that these are objectively negative character traits. In fact, being short or fat is not a character trait at all. They’re actually physical attributes, surprisingly enough.
Self perception
My friend, always keen to prove me wrong claims the problem isn’t the actual weight or height, rather how the person perceives his or herself as a result of the particular challenge.
A fat girl, or one who simply with the neurosis of self-perceived chunk, will have a certain off putting attitude, and usually a matching low self esteem.
Huh? say you. Well huh, says I.
That, my friends is a load of crap.
He doesn’t want to go out with a fat woman because he doesn’t find fat women physically attractive. I know this because he has never mentioned, dated let alone looked at a woman of a certain girth.
I appreciate his creativity in searching for a less vain attitude, but the truth is, there are certain stereotypes we find attractive in the opposite sex. Whether they’re inherent or learned, most women prefer men who are physically larger than they are. Luckily enough, most men prefer the woman to be smaller. So it works out well, really. No need for excuses after all.