The viral clip of a couple caught in the crowd at a Coldplay concert wasn’t shocking because it was rare—it was striking because it was all too familiar. It pulled back the curtain on a question that makes people uneasy: why do so many affairs spark in the one place you’d expect people to be most careful—work?
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Turns out, nearly a third of all affairs begin in the workplace. And it’s not because cubicles are suddenly sexy. Studies suggest the majority of office romances don’t erupt from passion at all—but from friendship, familiarity and emotional rhythm forged through routine.
Why the office is a breeding ground for betrayal
It’s not just the proximity or those long coffee breaks. Beneath the surface, invisible forces—hormonal, psychological, even neurological—are setting the stage. No one walks into the office planning to have an affair. But many walk out with one. Here’s how it happens:
1. Familiarity breeds attachment
The brain is a creature of habit. It likes the known. And the more often we see someone, the less foreign they become—and the more likely we are to feel drawn to them. Not because they’re more attractive, but because they’re less strange.
2. Bonding under pressure
Deadlines. Angry clients. Tight turnarounds. It’s not just stress—it’s shared adversity. And the brain reacts by releasing oxytocin, the same hormone that cements trust. So when two coworkers slog through stress together, their brains register something primal: Survival. Bond. Trust. And sometimes, more.
3. Attraction to like-minded people
People who share our language, goals, sense of humor—they feel like home. They feel safe. And in many offices, that sense of kinship is stronger than the one waiting at home.
4. Emotional escape
Most affairs begin with moments that feel harmless: a joke, a look, a check-in. But done enough times with the right person—someone who sees you, listens, and understands—those little moments weave a thread. And if something’s missing at home, that thread can pull tight, until suddenly it’s not just coffee anymore.
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This doesn’t mean betrayal is inevitable. It’s not. But it is human. And that’s precisely why it demands maturity: to name the temptation, to talk through it, and to choose commitment over impulse. The emotional brain is powerful—but it’s not destiny.
- Dr. Liat Yakir is a biologist specializing in genetics and science communication