"I want people to get to know me, not Tal from social media, because there's so much more to me than that," she says. "If a man starts talking about my page and seems interested in me because of the videos I've posted, I'll probably rule him out immediately. It raises too many concerns."
"What attracted me to my ex was that he wasn't interested in social media," she recalls. "But eventually, he started trying to control my content, deciding what I could and couldn't post."
"I let him because I was naive and felt pressured by those around me. All my friends were already married, some with children, and I felt like time was running out. I was desperate to settle down and get married, so I kept trying to please him. Eventually, I reached a breaking point and realized I'd lost myself in the process," Says Tal Harush, 28, from Petah Tikva, our bachelorette of the week.
‘On TikTok, I'm playing a character’
Harush is a familiar face on TikTok, but she has never considered herself a celebrity. Alongside creating videos, she works in laser treatments and sales consulting, jobs she says help keep her grounded.
She hopes to pursue acting, open her own laser treatment clinic, and launch a fashion brand. For now, she divides her time between work, making videos, Pilates, beach walks, reading, personal development, and spending time with friends and family.
Her mornings begin with prayer and gratitude. "I wake up and say Modeh Ani, the traditional Jewish morning prayer, ritually wash my hands and say a blessing over my coffee. I put on music and get ready. I'm constantly thanking God for everything I have, and I don't take anything for granted."
People are sometimes surprised to learn that she has an ordinary day job, but Harush considers that important. "I want to build a home and have a family, and I need another steady source of income and financial security."
Tal Harush. She has experienced heartbreak and relationships driven by ulterior motives
(Photo: Jen Chwina)
"On TikTok, I'm playing a character, wearing a kind of mask that gets views. People think I'm extremely confident, that everything comes easily to me and that I just say and do whatever I want. But that's not true."
"As a child, I was shy, withdrawn and eager to please. I was afraid to express an opinion. The camera helped me develop confidence and became a kind of friend. I'm a cheerful, sensitive and sociable person, and I want people to really know me. But it's very difficult for me to open up because I've been hurt by people around me, especially people in this industry."
Women or men?
"Both. I've dated people from social media before, and I've been in a relationship that played out publicly. But I never felt the men were genuinely interested in me. It seemed like they were more interested in the views and attention the relationship could bring them. That's why I'm now looking for someone who isn't in the public eye and has no interest in that world. I want a man who loves me for who I am, not for my followers. I want someone who's focused on building a home and family, not chasing views."
Tal Harush. Looking for a man who isn't in the public eye and has no interest in social media
(Photo: Tal Harush)
"I actually never shared my serious relationships online. There's a saying that blessings rest on what is hidden from the eye. When you expose personal things, people feel entitled to judge and criticize you.
"Both of my serious relationships ended the same way. I was broken up with out of the blue, without any warning. Those experiences left me with a fear of abandonment."
How did you cope?
"After the breakup, I felt like I couldn't breathe. I took it really hard, so I flew to New York to visit the resting place of the Lubavitcher Rebbe. I've been growing stronger in my faith, and I've started wearing a skirt once a week, which makes me feel good. That's why I need to find a man who has a connection to Judaism and puts on tefillin every morning. I've already bought my future husband a tallit, a Jewish prayer shawl, because it's considered a spiritual practice for finding a match."
Tal Harush. Searching for her soulmate
(Photo: Tal Harush)
What else matters to you in a man?
"I'm looking for a man who adores me, who sees my heart, respects and appreciates me, pursues me and makes an effort, and understands what he has. In past relationships, I didn't feel appreciated and was taken for granted. I was always the one taking the lead, and now I want someone I can lean on. I'm looking for my soulmate and a relationship built on communication, mutual respect, understanding and acceptance, because eventually the romance fades, but the friendship remains.
"Physical attraction is important to me, as is finding a hardworking, motivated man who takes initiative, because I'm driven and proactive myself. Above all, I want to be the most beautiful woman in his eyes. I want someone loyal, with good character and strong values. Most importantly, he has to be serious about building a home and starting a family. I used to want a man who gave me butterflies and swept me up in a whirlwind of excitement. Now I'm looking for someone who brings me peace of mind, stability and a sense of security."
What's your biggest weakness?
"I'm afraid to show vulnerability, and sometimes I forget to just go with the flow."
Tal Harush. Dreams of building a home and family with a loving partner
(Photo: Tal Harush)
What does love mean to you?
"Seeing your partner's flaws as strengths, or simply accepting and embracing them."
Do you believe in love at first sight?
"Yes, but you can also fall in love at second or third sight."
When was the last time you had your heart broken?
"Six months ago, after an unexpected breakup. But what's not meant for me isn't mine, and I'm embracing whatever life has in store for me."
Tal Harush. Has committed to wearing a skirt once a week as part of her growing religious observance
(Photo: Tal Harush)
What have you learned about yourself from past relationships?
"To be more careful about who I choose and to protect my private life instead of sharing everything with the public."
What's the most important thing in a relationship?
"Knowing how to argue, and understanding when an argument is normal and when it becomes toxic."
What hurts your feelings?
"I rarely get offended, and only people close to me can really hurt me. Even then, I know how to set boundaries."
In your ideal world, what would your perfect partner be like?
"We'd have a strong foundation and a deep connection, making our relationship stable and lasting. He treats me well, accepts me for who I am, supports me and adores me. Every day together feels like Valentine's Day."
What are your deal-breakers?
"Infidelity and unhealthy jealousy."
Would you date a smoker?
"Yes."
What age range are you looking for?
"29 to 35."
Would you date a divorced man, with or without children?
"No."
What's the worst date you've ever been on?
"I went out with a guy who spent the entire date trying to convince me why I shouldn't date him."
Describe your perfect date.
"A quiet place, good food, wine or juice, and great conversation. At the end of the evening, he drives me home, there's that sweet romantic awkwardness, we both want to see each other again, and then comes a goodnight text."
Tal Harush. Her worst date? A man who tried to convince her not to date him
(Photo: Tal Harush)
Should a man pay on the first date?
"I insist on paying on dates because I don't think men are obligated to treat me, and I don't want to feel like I owe anyone anything. Money and expensive vacations don't impress me. Values do."
What do you enjoy doing in your free time?
"I cook, make things with my hands, spend time with friends and relax. I also meditate, take walks by the sea, enjoy fashion and styling, and eat mayonnaise."
What's your favorite place in the world?
"New York for the shopping and London for the food."
What makes you laugh?
"Sometimes I'm tired and spaced out, and I find it amusing."
When was the last time you cried, and why?
"After October 7, I was in a very difficult emotional state, and for a month I couldn't get out of bed."
How close are you to your family?
"Very close, especially to my mom and dad. I'm with them every Friday and Saturday, and I'd rather spend time with family than go out with friends."
What do you think you were in a previous life?
"A dolphin, because it's an intelligent animal and also my favorite."
What's the last series you binge-watched?
"Emily in Paris."
What music do you listen to?
"Everything from Mizrahi music to Joni Mitchell's folk music, as well as pop, rock and jazz."
Tal Harush. Her recipe for a perfect date: a quiet place, good food, wine and great conversation
(Photo: Tal Harush)
Tell us something nobody knows about you.
"I wear blue contact lenses, but my natural eye color is honey brown."
How would your friends describe you?
"Smiling, kindhearted and funny."
What do you do on Shabbat eves?
"Spend time with my family, rest and make small and big efforts to observe Shabbat."
Where can someone approach you?
"On the street, Instagram or TikTok, but be creative."
Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
"Married and a mother, continuing to pursue my dreams and encouraging women and girls to pursue theirs."